smarting from a brush-off

There are times when we were rejected on something, a job offer, a favor, a request, or worse, on love.  It hurts when you like or love someone but he doesn't feel the same way towards you.  In our age today, where the girls can already be as outspoken of their feelings as the boys, it hurts when a girl asks out her crush or tells him that she likes him and got rejected.  It's a real ouch! For mothers or sisters who have teenagers who are in this chapter of their lives, here's how they can get over their wounded hearts and move on.

1. Your life was good before, and it will be good again. Think back to the time where you don't care at all.  Once upon a time, you don't care at all what he'll say or what he thinks of you, or if he ever thinks of you. For a minute, bring back that time and it will feel good.

2. No matter how much you like this guy, he will not reciprocate you.  You can't force him to feel the same towards you and will just leave you crazy trying.

3. Just remember or ask yourself this question: " what kind of a person is he if he can't see what is good and special about me?"  He does not deserve you.

4. Don't chase him like a puppy, he will just like you less.  If he really likes you, he'll find ways to find you and ask you, if he does not, then he really means it when he rejected your invitation or your proposal.

5. Don't ever be somebody you're not or try to be somebody you think he'll like.  You're just fooling yourself.   Because even if you changed your personality or your looks and he started to like you, it is the FAKE YOU that he likes and not the REAL YOU.

6. Be with friends or family and let them hear your cries and worries.  Don't lock yourself up in your room or isolate yourself, it will just make the feeling worse.  Friends will definitely understand you and will cheer you up and this will make you feel better.

7. Do something, preoccupy your body and mind. Do your schoolwork or get into sports, enroll in a workshop, go shopping, but not into drugs or alcohol.

8. It's okay if you feel it again once in awhile, if you do, call a bubbly friend or listen to a fast song and dance even alone in you room.  There are a lot more important things in your life than him or than rejection.

9. Repeat to yourself that you are better off without him and make yourself believe it.

10. Lastly, keep your eyes OPEN. There are lot of fishes in the ocean: who I  am sure are better than him.